It's his baby too

Words can't describe how amazing Brent is. I don't think he even realises, if it wasn't for him I wouldn't have ever been able to get through the last year and a half.  

I know how lucky I am. He's stuck by me and Lily through the ectopic and me nearly loosing my life. He was by my side throughout the whole of Lily's accident and did everything he could for her. He was there for me and strong for me the whole way through the pregnancy and grieving process with Albie. And he was there for me when we found out our next baby's heart had stopped beating. And he hasn't stopped being there for me since. 

I just hope I've done the same for him. I couldn't imagine life without him and I just want him to know I'm there for him too. I came across this poem that I think hits the nail on the head and I'd like to share it. 

A father's grief

 

It must be very difficult

To be a man in grief

Since ''men don't cry''

And ''men are strong''

No tears can bring relief. 

It must be very difficult

To stand up to the test

And field the calls and visitors

So she can get some rest 

They always ask if she's alright 

And what she's going through 

But seldom do they take his hand and ask

''My friend, but how are you?''

He hears her crying in the night 

And thinks his heart will break

He drys her tears and comforts her 

But ''stays strong'' for her sake 

It must be very difficult

To start each day anew

And try to be so very brave

He lost his baby too. 

So Brent, Thankyou. I'll be strong for you too. You are perfect and I promise you will always have me to lean on. 

I love you